"There is an occasion for everything, and a time for every activity under heaven: a time to give birth and a time to die; a time to plant and a time to uproot; a time to kill and a time to heal; a time to tear down and a time to build; a time to weep and a time to laugh; a time to mourn and a time to dance; a time to throw stones and a time to gather stones; a time to embrace and a time to avoid embracing; a time to search and a time to count as lost; a time to keep and a time to throw away; a time to tear and a time to sew; a time to be silent and a time to speak; a time to love and a time to hate; a time for war and a time for peace." Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
Recently our pastor gave a sermon on Ecclesiastes 3:1-8. For about forty-eight hours after the sermon both my husband and I found ourselves processing our current “season”. We’ve recently come out of a really tough season. One where we felt unsure and anxious. A season where our faith felt tested and some days shaky. But, in all of that uncertainty it was also a beautiful time of growth where I felt Jesus draw me closer. Seasons like this are hard, but I wouldn’t trade them. They are often the ones that define much of our relationship with our Father. These are the moments where the true character of God shines through and its good!
“For the Lord is good, and his faithful love endures forever; his faithfulness, through all generations.” Psalm 100:5
My husband also found himself processing a different part of our season. Over the past year we’ve seen a change in a close relationship. Changes that we didn’t choose. Changes that we haven’t wanted. But here we are watching the relationship shift and we can’t control it. For almost a year we’ve found ourselves fighting it. The fight has been internal as we’ve processed feelings of hurt and confusion. We’ve made efforts to figure it out. We’ve reached out trying to get answers. Yet, it’s still changing.
My husband shared with me that he thinks we need to stop fighting the change. It’s both of our natural tendencies to fight for the things we love and care about. We both feel big and love big. So when something is important to us, we will fight for it. But maybe this isn’t our fight. Sometimes “it’s a time to search and a time to count as lost” so maybe this is our time to “count as lost”? We spin our wheels trying to control the season or muster up enough strength to change it, but ultimately we can’t control it. So maybe we have to allow it to change.
Today I find myself in a season of rebuilding and dreaming. It’s a good place to be. But as I sensed a new season of peace coming I prayed that I would not allow myself to be distracted by the good and pay less attention to my relationship with my Father. Have you ever done this? In the most desperate and trying times in our lives we spend much of our time praying and asking. Seeking and hoping. In these moments God feels so close we could touch him. We recognize how much we need Him. But then our season changes, our anxieties lessen, and we don’t feel so desperate for help. We talk less and our relationship feels like it shifts…even if just a little.
But I don’t want this. To put it simply I don’t want to be a flake. I want my relationship with my Father to be consistent. I don’t want it to feel like the tide, flowing in and out. I want it to be steady. The truth is, it’s not my Father who is wavering, it’s me. I don’t make the time to pray and talk to Him. I allow my mornings to be taken over by my “to do” list instead of making the time to sit and be still. There are two of us in this relationship and I need to make the time. So, that’s where I am right now. I’m thankful for the good and peaceful season but struggling to keep my connection with my Savior priority as I allow this world to distract me with all the things. What I need to remind myself it that though it may feel like it, my relationship in of itself is not changing. My God still loves me and we are still connected. It just looks different in this season. And there is grace…always grace.
The beauty of changing seasons is that Jesus is always there. He’s always consistent. He embraces us in the struggle and celebrates with us in the joy. He hears our prayers and He knows our hearts. He never leaves us. Ever.
“The Lord is good to everyone; his compassions rests on all he has made.” Psalm 145:9
What season do you find yourself in right now? Is it one of struggle or one of joy? Whatever it may be, find a way to embrace it. Lean in to Jesus as you are processing and walking it out. Don’t miss the chance to learn and grow. Don’t pass up a chance to see Jesus in whatever season you are walking through. He’s there. Always.
Heather Williamson, a native Texan resides in Franklin, TN with her husband Steven and her three girls Kayley, Kaidence, and Kaitlyn. Heather and Steven celebrate that God rescued them from a broken marriage and redeemed their relationship with one another and their Savior. They have a passion for walking along-side couples who are struggling in their own marriages praying God will use their broken story to be a testament of hope. Heather also loves sharing life around a table with other women as they enjoy the God given pleasure of a good meal. Speaking of food, she loves the gift of a good taco, queso, or guacamole…really she just loves Tex Mex.