I'm going to share a little secret with you all today. I have never been very good at self-care. I've always been great at taking care of others, but when it came to myself it just didn't seem as important. To be honest a little part of me always felt selfish taking time to take care of myself, which is not true. I'm not sure how it happened, but over time I am becoming better at self-care. I'm no expert, but I'm taking steps in that direction.
I recently read a book by Shauna Niequist called Present Over Perfect. I you have a hard time with self-care at all I would really recommend this book because it helped me feel like self-care was important - not selfish.
Here are my Self-Care Tips From A Recovering Self-Neglector:
- Eat Breakfast | I have what I refer to as breakfast panic. Breakfast panic is when you wake up starving and unable to think because you haven't had any coffee, and you have no idea what to eat for breakfast. I have seriously eaten leftover curry for breakfast before. My daughter usually has some fruit and a piece of cheese for breakfast, but I could never figure out what to eat. UNTIL, I found a recipe for homemade granola. It's amazing and you don't have to think or cook anything. (See below for recipe). My neighbor always eats an apple with almond butter and a hard boiled egg. So find something that you know you can eat that fits in with your schedule and lifestyle.
- Wear Pajamas | In Shauna's book she talks about buying actual pajamas. Not leggings or workout short, but actual matching pajamas. So I did, and it turns out pajamas are much more comfortable to sleep in than the leggings I've been wearing for three days. It may just be the ritual of getting ready for bed or the fact that the only time I wear them is when I sleep, but there is definitely something special about them.
- Find Time To Be Quiet | I don't like to be alone and I don't like to be quiet. But over the past year or so I have really learned the importance of taking time to be quiet. I know as a parent this can be especially hard, but it's important. I think I'm a much better person when I do make time to be quiet, pray, and read.
- Find Something You Love To Do | If you are a mom, or even if you aren't and you have a job, it can be really easy to get lost in that. This is something that I am still learning big time. It's really important to have an outlet. Whether you like to knit or cook, go to the movies or play sports, whatever it is try to make time for it. One of the things I have loved doing is volunteering at the local Farmer's Market. It related to my passions for cooking and local farm to table food.
- Spend Time With People That Encourage You | I'm fortunate to have women in my life that encourage me and lift me up, and it has been life changing. If you don't have this in your life right now, I can relate to that too. When we first moved to the Nashville area, I didn't have any friends here. It was super hard, and it took me a while to find my people. But it is so important to find those people that you can text or call and honest say how you are doing, on the good days and hard days. I pray you find this in your life if you don't have it already. To start, be the kind of friend you want to have.
I hope this encourages you today. The number one rule about self-care is grace. Give yourself and others grace. God certainly does. Every day is a new day. Remember, "The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; His mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness." Lamentations 3:22-23 (NIV)
(Adapted from The Farmhouse Cookbook by Sarah Mayor)
3 Cups Oats
1/4 cup blanched slivered almonds
1/4 cup walnut pieces
2 Tbsp sesame seeds
1/4 sunflower seeds
1/4 pumpkin seeds
3.5 Tbsp olive oil
1/4 cup light brown sugar
2 Tbsp Tahini
Preheat to 340 degrees. Mix oats, nuts, and seeds together in large bowl. Heat oil, honey, brown sugar, and tahini until smooth. Add to the dry ingredients and mix until it clumps together a bit. Spread over a large baking sheet lined with parchment paper and bake for 20 minutes, stirring after 10 minutes and then after every 5 minutes. Make sure you check every 5 minutes so it doesn't burn. Remove from oven, cool, and store in jar. It will keep for a month in an airtight container.
Amanda has a passion for hospitality and walking in community with others. She enjoys being silly and is learning that it’s okay to be a mess sometimes, or maybe all the time! Jesus is the rock of her life, and she has/is learning to live in freedom and has a passion to help other women find freedom in Christ. She is a native Texan now living in Franklin, TN with her amazing husband and sweet five-year-old little girl. Amanda enjoys cooking food and trying new restaurants and also creating environments. You can connect with her on Instagram: @savorhaus or at savorhaus.com.